Betrothal is the pre-wedding meeting between the bride's and the groom's parents will determine the dowry that is to be given to the bride as well as the date of the solemnization. This may be as early as a year before the wedding itself so that arrangements could be made in advance.
Once agreement for the marriage has been reached between the families of the potential bride and the potential bridegroom, preparations for engagement (Meminang) take place. Representatives from the young man’s side once again visit the house of the young woman, following the confirmation of a date and time for such a visit. On the side of the potential bride, a consensus is obtained regarding the following:
(a) The date and time for the Meminang ceremony.
(b) The amount of money to be paid by the young man for expenses ( Wang belanja).
(c) Details regarding the gift (Hantaran) items.
(d) The date and time for the actual wedding ceremony and feast.
Details regarding the penalty should one of the parties break the agreement for the marriage.
When the young man’s representatives arrive at the young woman’s house, these matters are discussed and settled. Agreement is also reached on certain details regarding the engagement ceremony, including:
(a) The number of persons who will constitute the bride-groom’s party.
(b) The number of trays (Dulang) of gifts that will be brought in addition to the traditional betel-leaf containers (Tepak sirih).
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